Reading stories of women in response to the #MeToo uprising / upwising and being brought present again to what happened to me before I was out of grade school. Too young to know to beware. I am one of the 1 in 3 or 1 in 4 women who have been assaulted or molested in their life.
(If you don’t know what I’m referring to by #MeToo – read my post and the article links here – you will understand more)
What is being said by some men IS outrageous and is a call for all of us to speak up and create a different world. To treat and connect with men and especially younger men so that they are invited to view the world with all of us in it and all of life with respect and care.
Reading the remarks in a post on Facebook of men who have made outrageous remarks about women and rape – they can be viewed at these links:
I found myself after reading this post and articles – responding to women who are understandably triggered by what the men in the articles above have said…. doing my best to call forth from within me and asking others to do the same – a road that creates a different world…. now finding myself swimming through a very deep river running through me, one that is now asking to rise above ground to flow into this blog with what I posted in response on Facebook …. I have no idea how or by whom these men were brought up – likely by men who acted the same way… I don’t know that they have the wiring to see differently at the moment. AND if more men would join us women in rising up as invited in the blog mentioned in my post – maybe – more men would listen, consider and shift.
Knowing too that the things that some men say is a voice of neglect, ignorance, fear and abuse that currently lives in our field and, hence in our world. Noting here too – that abuse can and does occur from men to women, men to men, women to women and women to men – there is no genre or direction that is not part of this opportunity for healing, wholing and living from new directions.
And I invite – including any space or action toward ourselves as well. You may say – “Well I don’t say that! I don’t believe that! I don’t practice that!” whatever the ‘that’ is. And yet – I invite us to look into our internal closets and touch whenever and however we have abused ourselves by what we have said to ourselves, thought to ourselves, treated ourselves as well as not speaking up for ourselves (knowing sometimes it simply was not possible to do so when we are being attacked – sometimes we stayed silent to save our lives). A note here to mention Forgiveness: Forgiving is a tool ‘For Giving’ a release to freedom from whatever has occurred. Never saying what happened was okay. Forgiving judgments of …. forgiving who we were or were not for ourselves and ultimately forgiving others. It gives us the capacity to powerfully let go of any attachment and/or effect from what has occurred. To finally be more free than we have known. Please see my post on Forgiveness….
There is a video I share ….
“What is being said by some men, not ALL men – IS outrageous and is a call for all of us to speak up and create a different world. To treat and connect with men and especially younger men so that they are invited to view the world with all of us in it and all of life with respect and care. Not all men think or speak this way – I invite a read: https://johnpavlovitz.com/2017/10/16/men-side-metoo/ for an experience of a man with a different voice. (my only add to his article would be to request men to get involved to with different hashtags such as “#neveragain #changingmyways #morerespect”)
I would also like to ask that we stop name calling no matter how pissed we get. To stop lumping people into generic groups as is done from so many directions. How we do anything is how we do everything – so if we call another stupid then we likely do that to ourselves too. Words are POWERFUL – words create our world and we all ‘sentence ourselves’ everyday with the words we think, speak, write etc. So when we choose words like stupid or whatever – we are actually helping create a more ‘stupid’ world. Is that what we really want? I don’t think so. Why don’t we support ourselves and each other – (Including the men who care) and heal inside what is getting triggered so we use the trigger to become more whole while standing up for a world we love to live in. Thanks for reading and caring.”
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