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– Kim Conrad

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Kim Conrad, M.A.
Multi-Award Winning Author
International Speaker, Consultant
Founder, Sacred Life Living

Life changes in an instant – The Night I met Rob

This is so profound for me not only what happened on the night of November 18, 2018, but also what followed when I was so drawn to share this on Facebook. What transpired from my share on Facebook also changed my life. The lives that changed from comments shared from people that read what had happened. And what people wrote when they shared my post. All told over 1000 people viewed it and there were over 300 engagements (I’m learning what that is 🙂 ) I got deeply in touch with what ‘runs’ me – I found myself boosting my post a number of times because it was making such a difference. I was not doing it to boost me. I was doing it to boost the difference it was making…. and I learned about what sense and direction internally can help me with making a bigger difference. I do so much more when it is about making a difference – passing on a message – than asking people to focus on me.

I also saw how far I’d come from a car accident and head injury a number of years ago, in that I easily wrote what I shared very well. It was clear and concise… my dreams and determination to be well is taking great strides with the neurofeedback I’m doing, combined I think, with a cumulative effect of years of dedication to daily support for myself to help my brain improve.

So – here is the post I shared on Facebook November 19th, 2018:
I think I am finding the need to share about this because it is still moving so strongly in my system:
As I was leaving an event tonight in Denver after we had taken down the exhibit… I was driving past the event center when a disheveled man walked up to my vehicle and seemed to be asking for help. I stopped and rolled the window down enough to speak with him. He shared he had gotten lost and had been walking in the cold for miles… he had some mental issues, missed his bus, became disoriented and had lost his way. He asked me to call the police so they could come help him. I called. Over the next hour I helped him get another jacket, water, offered food, etc. He wasn’t feeling well and eventually asked for an ambulance. I had the police send an ambulance for him. His phone was not working and he asked me to call his mother who lives out of state, so I did and helped them connect. I waited until the ambulance came and gave the paramedic his mother’s phone number. He looked like he had been beaten at times in his life and been through many challenges.
Having had a serious head injury I know what it’s like to be disoriented and not have a sense of direction and more…
Safe in the ambulance – I moved forward with my evening – I found myself crying as I drove away at the things that can happen in this life on Planet Earth…. and took time to connect also with all the love, grace, health and possibility that exists too.
He said a number of times he didn’t think the police or ambulance would really come. I told him they were truly on their way. He thanked me for staying and I hope he had at least one experience of someone who cared.

An Add On Note:
Thank you EveryOne   – I also want to add a note – while being of service I was also checking in on and with what was safe for me as well…. this is important too – to maintain awareness in all regards while helping others… While waiting for the ambulance I also felt into his field and sent him healing energy… To the amazingness of each of one us and of all life. We are all made of the same ingredients, just different recipes.

Listen – Follow – Care – Be Kind – We and Our World Need ALL of Us Now.

What kinds of being kind can you pass on in the next few moments – with each thought – each word – each action inside and/or out? …
Each day that you breathe and are still part of this Earth School…

Thank you

Dame Kim Conrad
Multi-Award Winning Author
International Speaker and Consultant
Founder of Sacred Life Living, LLC

Life Changing – The Honor of Being Knighted this year

So it’s official. You can now call me ‘Dame Kim Conrad’ and Kim is just fine. A friend said, “You are the first Knight I’ve ever met!”. I said, “So am I!” 🙂 Almost actually – I am except for the wonderful and dynamically world changing woman who nominated me – Shellie Hunt. And – Calling me Dame is fine too – just don’t take off the ‘e’. A very different experience! If you do it becomes “Dam Kim Conrad” – not working 🙂 🙂 🙂

So – what happened. Listening and following the ‘calls’ of life… Shellie Hunt who I met in 2016 when we both spoke at the Women’s Economic Forum in New Delhi, India – nominated me for knighthood after we had been working on the creation of my body of work called “Sacred Life Living”. I did not expect it. I did not know she was a Knight. I am just determined to be of service and make a difference however life affords me the opportunity. It is because of this and more that Shellie said she was honored to have me be the first person she had ever nominated for knighthood.

By this time you may be saying, “Alright already – what organization is it!” 🙂
Ok – so what organization is it?
It is the Order of the Orthodox Knights Hospitallers of St. John, now known as The Order of St. John Russian Grand Priory (OOSJ). This is the oldest historical charitable order to serve humanity, regardless of caste, creed, or ability to pay.
If you want to learn more you can go to: http://oosj-rgp.org/?page_id=865
The list of notable people and those that are not so known is remarkable … ALL of them – and – I am VERY HONORED.

First I was nominated. Then went through an extensive application process. Then accepted. And a year later went through the knighting ceremony.
The growth that I went through from nomination, to acceptance, to the ceremony was VERY DEEPLY transformative and profound. Walking into and as a person of Knighthood and being that declaration in the world. For me it is not about a title – one I had not sought – yet in living and being who I am continually drawn to live, be and do this found me. What is searching for you the more you live, be and do the contributions you came to give in this world? We all might be surprised and have MANY REASONS to Celebrate!

Here are some photos of the ceremony. This is a call out from me for our world – we likely have sooooo many more gifts to give and opportunities to make a difference in our world every day – we NEED THIS NOW – We NEED ALL OF US NOW – to the GIFT OF YOU! SHINE!!! That’s Why YOU’RE Here.

This is the church in Los Angeles where the Knighting Ceremony too place:

This is the sword used in our knighting ceremony – there were 15 of us. I was honored to be in everyone’s company.

Me at the Church

This is the plate of medals before one is given to each of us in our part of the ceremony.

Friends for 45 years. Eve and Jerry live nearby. I was so excited and honored that they could make it! Jerry, who is 91 years young, said, “I wouldn’t have missed it!”

Myself with fellow knight Michael Beckwith who joined us for the ceremonies.

All of us that were knighted, along with the Countess and all of the Knights who performed the ceremony for us.

A Fun Picture of myself with the Countess – Sunglass Divas – at the reception following the ceremony

To what can happen – the grace of life – welcoming each of us with open arms when we follow that calling that lives and breathes in and through the very cells of our being. Even when that inner ‘knowing’ seems wacky and still every cell in your body says “It’s Right!”
BE YOU. That’s why you’re here. Listen – Follow and Welcome Home.

Love to All of You and Thanks for being here and a part of my life.

Dame Kim Conrad
Multi-Award Winning Author
International Speaker and Coach
Founder of Sacred Life Living, LLC

2018 Wonderful Memories of Some People I met this year! Chicago – Jim Messina …

First – The Group CHICAGO – August 2018
Some history – and then what happened 🙂
I actually grew up in Hollywood, California during some of my elementary school years living across the street from CHICAGO!
I loved their music and had wanted to go see them for years. Here it is 2018 and a friend of mine and I bought tickets to go see them at the Pepsi Center here in Denver, Colorado. At a break during the concert I saw that a person could purchase a ‘fan’ care package and the opportunity to meet and have a photo with Chicago after the concert. I pondered… The cost – $100 for either one or two people. I did not really want the care package. What I really wanted was to meet them, have a photo and then walk away with the signed poster as a memory. Hmmm… I would be willing to split the cost with someone… My friend said “No”. I then spoke to the young man at the sign up desk and he suggested I come to door 104 after the show where everyone would be lining up to go see them and maybe I could find someone to share the ticket with.
Ok – great.

After the concert I went to door 104. A young man who seemed to be standing alone and I struck up a conversation. His name was Bruno. I asked if he was by himself. He said “Yes”. So I asked if he would be willing to split his ticket with me. He said “Yes”. We continued our very pleasant conversation. After a while the line began to move down the stairs onto the stage floor and then backstage. Before we got to the security check point I said, “I want to make sure to pay you before we get in.” Bruno gave me a gift. He said, “No need to pay me. Just come along with me.” This wave of gratitude washed through me and I shared a very Big and Warm “Thank You so much! I would have been happy to pay you… AND Thank You! This is a Great Gift for Me! I’ve wanted to meet them as I grew up across the street in Hollywood listening to them rehearse!” He beamed a big smile at me.

We continued through the Security Check line and backstage where one by one or couple by couple each of us got a chance to step up, say hello to Chicago and have a photo with them. (see below – Bruno is the young man next to me) When we stepped up to say hello and have our photo I asked them if they remembered ‘Holly Drive’, which is the street we all lived on back then. They got very excited, wide eyes and said “YES!!” I said, “I lived on Holly Drive across the street from you!” “Oh My God! You’re Kidding!”, they said. We laughed, shared warm smiles that tucked into our hearts. Bruno and I took our photo with them – Bruno with his care package and I with gratefulness.

We stepped away from our photo opp. A woman gave Bruno his signed poster and we walked away. Bruno then gave me another gift. He handed me the poster asking if I would like to have it. I said, “Are you sure you wouldn’t like it?” He shared, “I am on a motorcycle and seeing some friends after the concert. I am not able to carry it. If you’d like it please take it.” I paused, took this in and chose to receive. With very deep and profound gratefulness for Bruno as the Universe showing up in this way I accepted and received the poster. I walked away with everything I had asked for and more. A new found connection. Many smiles inside and out. Chicago’s poster. Wonderful conversation. And, many memories to cherish for a looooong time.

Bruno and I with Chicago 🙂 Bruno is the young man on my left

Second – JIM MESSINA of Loggins and Messina – November 2018
This concert was at the beautiful concert hall in Lakewood, Colorado – the Lakewood Cultural Center. FUN and WONDERFUL Concert with a Full House. A more intimate setting than the Pepsi Center 🙂 They mentioned Jim would be meeting people and signing his CD’s etc out front after the concert. A group of us unintentionally were standing near the stage door where performers can enter the lobby. Jim walked by and we caught each other’s eye. We smiled, he took my hand in his and we just had this warm connection. I shared my gratitude for his music, artistry and genuine heart. He smiled and thanked me and invited me to come into the lobby to get in line to see him. I did. The line progressed. One fan had brought all of his LP’s and some memorabilia. Jim signed all of them 🙂 It was my turn to step up. He signed the CD I purchased, we took a photo and then he shared that he LOVED my necklace (one of my businesses is where I design, make and sell Victorian and semi-precious jewelry). The necklace I was wearing is one I carry. He asked me to wait until he was complete with the line. He wanted to take a picture of it and, giving me his email asked me to send him information on the necklace. I did. He is a genuinely kind and caring person with a great flair for music and charming fun on stage. The rest of his band was amazing too.
Another very memorable evening that I am so glad I gave myself the opportunity to experience.

Jim and I after the concert 🙂

I am finally well enough from a head injury in 2007 where I sustained tremendous sensory processing issues – to handle most of the sound… some of these people may not be around for another turn – so I chose, in addition to the two mentioned above – Rod Stewart, Joan Baez and Josh Groban this year… and may be forgetting some others 🙂 ALL of them were GREAT!!

So exciting to be getting well enough to go on with life with more joys!! With great gratitude for what’s possible when you don’t give up and keep doing everything we CAN to move forward! When we do – Life responds – “YES” for “YES”!

Dame Kim Conrad
Multi-Award Winning Author
International Speaker and Consultant
Founder of Sacred Life Living, LLC

For the Holidays: Another Way to Look at Giving -:)

Some Thoughts on Giving –

The Holidays are so often referred to as ‘the season of giving’. I find that giving throughout the year of my heart, my time, my love, my appreciation etc. is a much more fulfilling way to go. And to note that receiving is actually giving someone the opportunity of experiencing the joy and fulfillment of their giving. I realized quite a while ago, having had difficulty receiving myself, that when we have troubles receiving we are actually cutting another person off from experiencing the gift of their giving.
As long as of course, you truly wish to receive what is being given 🙂 … That’s a whole other thing 🙂
So what if you could enjoy both giving and receiving?
How much more FUN could that be for EveryOne?

For over 30 years I have done events providing my jewelry and inspirational books as gifts of the heart for both the outside and the inside. I have listened to so many speak of the Holidays this way, “Oh – I can’t give to myself, I am shopping for gifts for others. … I can’t give to myself now!” If it feels appropriate, I will ask if I might share another perspective…. Most often I hear “Yes, please do.”
When I ask if it could be of value to share and … I get a “Yes” this is what I share:
I don’t think the Holidays were designed as a ‘giving’ and ‘denying’ experience!
They were designed as a season of giving…. which includes you too.
So I invite you to include yourself if you happen to be one of those ‘Holiday deniers’ 🙂
We go shopping often at the Holidays more than any other time of year.
We see more goodies than any other time of year.
Why deny us the joy of gifting ourselves when we place ourselves in front of so much richness – so much creativity, imagination and joy?
Budget yourself in throughout the year if that works – set aside money for yourself as well as others…. for the more we include ourselves, the more we can include others.
We can only treat others the way we treat ourselves….
Be Nice to Yourself 🙂
You’re worth it!

So IN-JOY the Holidays!
What if You IN-JOYED gifting yourself and others – however that looks – with a smile, a hug, a laugh, acknowledging yourself in the mirror,
your time, your money, a gift gift … etc
What if you said YES?!!
What could your life look like then?

Give with Love and Goodies as you chose
IN-clude yourself along the way –
with all the gifts giving and receiving of the heart as well as all the delicious goodies in all kinds of packages.
It’s Much More FUN!

Then – I’d like to share this verse on Giving from my book
“Vice Versa Verse”

You have to give in first in order to give out.
If you don’t you give up
and are no longer able to give out
because you’ve used up everything that’s in.
Fill your basket first to give from your fullness
rather than lack.

Living in giving is not about self-sacrifice
it’s about giving from your wholeness.
when you are whole
you can receive what others have to give.

Give other people the experience of giving too –
receive them
by first receiving yourself.

– Kim Conrad
Copyright 2012-2018
“Vice Versa Verse – Inspiring Twists on How to View Your Life and Fill Your Soul”
including 16 audio recordings to heal your heart and fill your soul
Paperback with CD and eBook with Audio – Available at http://www.KimConrad.com

With Love and Being Grateful For the GIFT of You

A FUN Holiday Image – whether you are a Cat Lover or Not 🙂

Dame Kim Conrad
Multi-Award Winning Author
International Speaker & Consultant
Founder of Sacred Life Living, LLC

Peace Is …. What is Peace to You?

I saw this post on Facebook (image below)
It got me thinkin’ and was the catalyst for this sharing….

First thank, you to Audrey Shenandoah – your thoughts have inspired more of mine

My thoughts as of this writing that continue to evolve in and beyond this post….

For Me – Peace is Access to the Sacredness of the Heart – to the silence within – to balance – to that space of possibility from which all comes. Peace is Access to all that lives within and the connection to All Things, Peace is….   Peace is when Love is Itself …. a very fully integrated, action oriented, balance bringing, in-powered and empowering Love

For me – Peace is not about Law and Justice or Rules – which to me implies ‘enforcement’ – Peace is a living embodiment of conscious integration – i.e. Conscious Oneness – that can be a fierce Conscious Oneness – and as such it ends up ‘ruling’ – as we have consequences when we do not live as designed – the print out of life shows us we are out of balance via its feedback – and we are ‘grossly’ out of balance right now. This ‘gross’ out of balance – this demand for action – is calling forth a balancing of energies showing us we can no longer wait to act – we MUST ACT NOW….Inside and Out.
This is an opening of a verse of mine called “Revelations” from “Vice Versa Verse”: “We are moving from a world that changes by consequence to a world that changes proactively by choice, yet to get there, we are being triggered by consequence.” – Kim Conrad

To Conscious Integration and Oneness – a door through which we find home – a home that we are, a home that has never left and is there whenever we chose to experience our integration and say hello. A place from which we can be constantly becoming.
Take a few moments – Put your hands on your heart – feel the resonance of heart through every cell of your being and all the spaces in between, then – breathe slowly in for 3 – pause – out for 5 – pause – repeat 9 times and allow yourself to come home.

Notice how much balance there actually is.
Notice how much Peace already exists and enhance it –
Be Thankful for the Peace on Earth that already exists today –
it does exist – and likely is in this moment of connection.

Then also address – take action to bring balance to those parts of our world that are calling for attention by illustrating their ‘out of balance’.

Peace be with you, as you, of you, for you and the US that WE Are NOW.

My Best for Our Best,


Kim Conrad
International Speaker, Coach, Consultant
Multi-Award Winning Author
Difference Maker

Wow – Archeology Turns on Its Head!

To civilizations past helping us with a new future
This excerpt with the link below – JUST AMAZING

Lasers Reveal a Maya Civilization So Dense It Blew Experts’ Minds

“They were hidden there, all this time, under the cover of tree canopies in the jungles of northern Guatemala: tens of thousands of structures built by the Maya over a millennium ago.

Not far from the sites tourists already know, like the towering temples of the ancient city of Tikal, laser technology has uncovered about 60,000 homes, palaces, tombs and even highways in the humid lowlands.

The findings suggested an ancient society of such density and interconnectedness that even the most experienced archaeologists were surprised.

“Everywhere that we looked, there was more settlement than we expected,” said Thomas Garrison, a National Geographic explorer and an archaeologist at Ithaca College. “We knew there was going to be more, but the scale of it really blew our minds.”
See the rest!



Kim Conrad
International Speaker – Consultant – Coach
Multi-Award Winning Author
Founder of Sacred Life Living

Powerful – Creating New Opportunities Through Changing Perspectives

Have you ever seen this photo?

It is so powerful for me and brings to an intensive pitch illustrating how the way we look at things shifts the experience of our world. We can look at one part(s), the other part(s) and/or chose to take in the whole picture.
What are your experiences of life?
How can you enhance them by learning, exploring, playing with and/or shifting your perspectives?  Do you resist? Are you excited? Both?
You can try new perspectives on to see how you might feel and then choose whether you want to keep them.

What if you truly explored perspectives with someone who currently sees things differently than you with a focus on learning how they got that way rather than attempting to change them or them you?

None of us were born the way we are today. We have formed, been conditioned and made choices to make it through in the best ways we could see at the time both consciously and unconsciously…. all filled with joys, pains, survival techniques, anger, pain, laughter, connections, disconnections, rage, etc. … We are all engaged in having a human experience.

All of your/our responses are just opportunities to learn more about ourselves, and in so doing, we give ourselves greater and greater opportunities to create a world we love and to live our dreams.

Wayne Dyer shared this quote: “If you change the way you look at the things the things you look at change.”
And then went on to share: “The greatest choice you could ever make is to decide whether you live in a friendly or a hostile universe.”
Your life will be totally different AND you can change it at ANY time.
For me – my sense is this world is created in very wise ways. There is wisdom in its innate structure. What this affords me is likely an easier way to notice and connect to what the wisdom could be in any circumstance. Hence, the ability to generate and re-source to newer heights from whatever comes up.

Consider this:
Neuroplasticity – the ability for neurons to change is very well documented now. Neurons that fire together wire together and neurons that no longer fire together no longer wire together. Hence – you can change the road maps of your brain – your perspectives and resulting behavior at any time in any way.
There are many tools, tips and processes to do this very effectively – to create the you that you’ve always dreamed of…..I know this very well healing from a traumatic brain injury…

If you feel funny, uncomfortable or whatever – this is simply a reflection that you are considering a different path – or wiring – than you have previously known. That’s all. Accept this and it can open new doorways to try on new things. Know too that whatever you ‘try on’ you can keep what works for you and let go of what does not work for you at this time. There is no ‘have to’. There is choice.

To the power of you to change our world and yours in any moment of every day. Continue to step out and in-joy the journey.
We need you now!

You ARE changing the world every day. No question. You and the choices you make are powerful. Period. What adventures in choice making can you expand to? Make the world one that excites you, inspires you, intrigues you, that you love. Make the choices within and without that create these and more. Become comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Just start – your new world and ours begins right now.

Dame Kim Conrad
Multi-Award Winning Author
International Speaker, Consultant
Performance Integration Master
Founder Sacred Life Living



What If… #1

In these challenging times – what if they were challenging us to become the most amazing connected human expressions the world has ever known – individually and collectively?  And from this place to unite with all life in the most miraculous forms ever.
To the heartfelt miracle of getting to know ourselves in all the crevices, nooks and crannies and in-lighten-ing every one. For the more we know ourselves the more we can relate to others – for we are One.

I’m glad that my toe is not designed to be my ear and that both live out their lives being themselves 🙂   Or that my liver isn’t having an identity crisis and attempting to be my stomach – if so – it would be a ‘bad’ day!
Live the miracle of you that you came designed to be since your inception – listen to the wisdom of your body – it will be happy when you are following your heart and not so happy when you’re not.

It’s TIME to SHOW UP! 
When a crisis hits a magnitude of opportunity exists!
Love to All of You –

Kim Conrad
International Speaker, Trainer
Award Winning Author
Founder, Sacred Life Living

Let’s Add #NeverAgain to #MeToo

Reading stories of women in response to the #MeToo uprising / upwising and being brought present again to what happened to me before I was out of grade school. Too young to know to beware. I am one of the 1 in 3 or 1 in 4 women who have been assaulted or molested in their life.
(If you don’t know what I’m referring to by #MeToo – read my post and the article links here – you will understand more)
What is being said by some men IS outrageous and is a call for all of us to speak up and create a different world. To treat and connect with men and especially younger men so that they are invited to view the world with all of us in it and all of life with respect and care.

Reading the remarks in a post on Facebook of men who have made outrageous remarks about women and rape – they can be viewed at these links:

I found myself after reading this post and articles – responding to women who are understandably triggered by what the men in the articles above have said…. doing my best to call forth from within me and asking others to do the same – a road that creates a different world…. now finding myself swimming through a very deep river running through me, one that is now asking to rise above ground to flow into this blog with what I posted in response on Facebook …. I have no idea how or by whom these men were brought up – likely by men who acted the same way… I don’t know that they have the wiring to see differently at the moment. AND if more men would join us women in rising up as invited in the blog mentioned in my post – maybe – more men would listen, consider and shift.

Knowing too that the things that some men say is a voice of neglect, ignorance, fear and abuse that currently lives in our field and, hence in our world. Noting here too – that abuse can and does occur from men to women, men to men, women to women and women to men – there is no genre or direction that is not part of this opportunity for healing, wholing and living from new directions.

And I invite – including any space or action toward ourselves as well. You may say – “Well I don’t say that! I don’t believe that! I don’t practice that!” whatever the ‘that’ is. And yet – I invite us to look into our internal closets and touch whenever and however we have abused ourselves by what we have said to ourselves, thought to ourselves, treated ourselves as well as not speaking up for ourselves (knowing sometimes it simply was not possible to do so when we are being attacked – sometimes we stayed silent to save our lives). A note here to mention Forgiveness: Forgiving is a tool ‘For Giving’ a release to freedom from whatever has occurred. Never saying what happened was okay. Forgiving judgments of …. forgiving who we were or were not for ourselves and ultimately forgiving others. It gives us the capacity to powerfully let go of any attachment and/or effect from what has occurred. To finally be more free than we have known. Please see my post on Forgiveness….
There is a video I share ….

My post:
“What is being said by some men, not ALL men – IS outrageous and is a call for all of us to speak up and create a different world. To treat and connect with men and especially younger men so that they are invited to view the world with all of us in it and all of life with respect and care. Not all men think or speak this way – I invite a read: https://johnpavlovitz.com/2017/10/16/men-side-metoo/     for an experience of a man with a different voice. (my only add to his article would be to request men to get involved to with different hashtags such as “#neveragain #changingmyways #morerespect”)

I would also like to ask that we stop name calling no matter how pissed we get. To stop lumping people into generic groups as is done from so many directions. How we do anything is how we do everything – so if we call another stupid then we likely do that to ourselves too. Words are POWERFUL – words create our world and we all ‘sentence ourselves’ everyday with the words we think, speak, write etc. So when we choose words like stupid or whatever – we are actually helping create a more ‘stupid’ world. Is that what we really want? I don’t think so. Why don’t we support ourselves and each other – (Including the men who care) and heal inside what is getting triggered so we use the trigger to become more whole while standing up for a world we love to live in. Thanks for reading and caring.”

Kim Conrad
Award Winning Author
Inspirational Speaker
International Consultant
Founder Sacred Life Living

An Opportunity for Listening and Collaborating Perspectives

Sharing this response of mine to a post on Facebook that got a very valuable discussion going and also triggered some reactionary name calling.
I am sharing here because what I shared was of value to some – SO – I am sharing my post and then for reference the brief article that I refer to which Carolyn took time to copy into Facebook so we were dealing with accuracy and a couple word tiles.

My Share: I appreciate all your perspectives and can see how it could be read/seen/ experienced in various ways. Carolyn, I thank you for taking the time to type the story. I have read it only once and at the moment feel drawn to share. For me at this moment it appears the writer is expressing more from conditioning than a personally directed racist or prejudiced perspective. Conditioning that unfortunately is part of our society at this time and up for a very welcomed timely revision. For me, it could also be read in a way to highlight that a person who happens to be a “Capitol Police special agent Crystal Griner is an African-American lesbian. She is a former college basketball star who got married to her wife Tiffany Dyar in 2015.”       This writer mentioned other standouts about Crystal in addition to race. I can also view this as bringing to light anyone whatever their gender, race or sexual preference can be a hero. I do find it striking that this writer only mentions the race of those that were “African-American” and I can understand how that would be something that strongly does not work for many readers…. it certainly stands out to me.

        When I am triggered or I see things that are out of balance, part of my contributing to a solution is to look within myself as well as take actions ‘outside’ myself. This means to see where, how and why I am triggered and heal my own wounding that has come to light in response to whatever the trigger is…. then I am really contributing to the healing and transformation of whatever situation is up – a powerful part of transformation is “when we want a system or situation to change, then be in the system/situation and change – when we change the matrix is different) then also take actions outside of my own inner ‘Earth School’. Earth School is always in session….

        For opening doors and helping cause a shift in the tides – I would invite anyone who wishes – to write to this paper/ magazine/… and the author of this coverage in such a way to bring about possible welcomed change from all directions…. How I often do this is to find a way to come from my authentic heart center: first to thank them for covering the story – for whatever you can find to truly thank them for; then invite them into covering stories even more accurately and in ways that could increase readership (it helps when what and/or the way you ask people to do something can be viewed as also helping themselves as well as you) and possibly then thank them for reading and considering your point of view and increasing their readership…. and/or opening a dialogue with you and others to help us all come to greater understanding of each other, increasing respect, awareness and the capacity to do our jobs better and live more contributory lives….

        We need ALL of us right now to find ways like the cells of our physical bodies to work together so our grandchildren have a planetary body to live on that is worth living on….

        So – what greater things could happen if we, even in conversations such as this, listened, cared, inquired, rather than wrote while having reactions – we’re gonna have reactions – Earth School is in session…. have the reaction, then own what’s coming up, that light has been shed so healing can occur, learn, grow, shift and chose again – and write from a greater mission for a greater world than from reaction (knowing that I too react and do my best to live what I am writing, I am successful much of the time and Earth School is in session for All of Us.)

        This is a much more lengthy share than I anticipated and hope it is of some value to some. Thanks for the dialogue. We are ALL of Value – All of Life – otherwise we wouldn’t be here.

The Article:
Carolyn shared: “I found it. There’s a picture of the Republican Congressmember Steve Scalise which is followed by the text: “Republican Congressmember Steve Scalise remains in critical condition two days after he and four other people were wounded when a gunman opened fire on Wednesday at a baseball field in Alexandria, Virginia. Scalise was practicing for a charity congressional baseball game, which took place last night. Doctors say Scalise’s condition has improved in the last 24 hours, after undergoing three surgeries, but he is expected to remain hospitalized for an extended period of time. Meanwhile, more information has come to light about the Capitol Hill police officers who were credited with saving Scalise’s life and preventing the shooting of other lawmakers. Capitol Police special agent Crystal Griner is an African-American lesbian. She is a former college basketball star who got married to her wife Tiffany Dyar in 2015. Special agent David Bailey, who is also African-American, joined the Capitol Police about nine years ago. He hobbled out onto the field last night to throw the first pitch in the congressional baseball game. Both sustained injures in a firefight with the gunman, James Tommy Hodgkinson, who was shot dead. Griner remains in the hospital, after being shot in the ankle. In the wake of the mass shooting, some Republican lawmakers are openly discussing weakening gun regulations in Washington, D.C., to make it easier for lawmakers and other residents of the district to carry guns, while others are calling for stronger gun control.”

Adding a couple thoughts in these word tiles in case they are of value too


Kim Conrad
Multi-Entrepreneur, Award Winning Author, Inspirational Speaker
Founder Sacred Life Living